The Real Man for me
All a girl wants or more like what i would want…is.. a REAL MAN.
The theory proposes the paradox that a Real Man-the sort all girls deserve is also a chauvinist who believes he’s a better,stronger, more intelligent and more rational than a woman in every way. However, while most bigots merely brandish their masculinity about, the Real Man understands that there is a corresponding responsibility towards his woman. He’s thus able to fulfill all her needs and wants without her even saying anything,sorting out her problems and dealing with her "ridiculous illogical idiosyncrasies".
Someone suggested to me that it was men take the more proactive role in dealing with misunderstandings in a relationship.That someone said, "you know-lah" all those womanly things - being indecisive (so like me 
) , being late, ranting over trivial things..etc.
But a Real Man has to be patient and sensitive so that he doesnt make it worse.Even if he’s thinking ‘Damn Woman!’ he’d never say it out loud.
Okay, yes even i admit that most women including myself, are known for their many PMS moments. For example, mood-swings, throwing tantrums whenever i wanted and having that irritable mood.. It goes on…
A Real Man, being "above" everything, also understands the dynamics of a relationship better than his partner and as such, is able to fully comprehend whether or not it is something that will work in the long term.If say, he ends up marrying her and things go wrong, the responsibility rests entirely on the Real Man. If he’s man enough to ask for her hand in marriage, then he’s got to be man enough to take care of watever happens.
Hmm…lets see…an example of a married couple (nagging problem):
If a woman’s been nagging you all week to change the light bulb,it’s not her fault. She just wants the light bulb changed.If the guy is getting irritated by it, its his fault for choosing to be with a woman who cant communicate with him properly. Also, if he’s a Real Man who understands that his needs are secondary to hers, and that everything done should be for her happiness, that light bulb would have been changed even before she had the chance to nag… 
Bottomline :
The Real Man is the perfect gentleman - chivalrous,noble,courteous,caring and consistently so. He will make sacrifices…
But then..i was thinking to myself too..if I MYSELF were to be that "REAL GUY" .. i would seem to be bogged down by a helluva alot..how then does this ‘ guy ‘ have time to be happy himself ?
Then someone told me, "ching, why are you sympathising with the man ?? If he wants to be a hero, then there’s a price to pay for it! ".
SO if the theory holds, a girl can do watever she wants.The only person i have to make me happy is ME ! =)
So yes, i am willing to concede that Real Man are better than women..it’s a small price to pay for having a perfect gentleman lavish unceasing attention on you. The problem is locating a Real Man.. and lets face it, it really doesnt look like there are many out there man enough for the job!
February 7th, 2006 at 10:27 am
ching… relationships are never one-sided. both men and women give to each other and receive from each other as well. the key motivation factor is love. we men protect, cherish, and understand you because we love you. and in return, you women, support, reassure, and take care of us in return, because you love us. its a perfect model.. not unbalanced